How much longer?

a year ago when Cepheus started to learn to talk and call names, we get together and talk about how to teach and what to teach him.  My take is mandarin and English at home, no other dialects.  Dear insist on teaching him cantonese as it is his roots and language.. OK if letting him learn your language means respect to you guys and it is always good to teach him a new thing so i relented and took it in..

Then came the names, i told them do not teach him to call "嬷嬷" as it is on the same note as "妈妈“ and "mama" (in hokkien where i was born in).  Because i knew that one day he will be confused, teach him to call 奶奶 or 啊嬷 instead so that he wont be confused. My MIL said NO and insisted that children are very bright and smart and will be able to seperate "嬷嬷" from those.  She mentioned that 啊嬷 is so difficult to call why not call me mommy (HUH?? u expect a one year old kid dont know how to call Ah Ma but can pronounce Mommy???) Out of respect, again i tolerated and said OK to let him be taught both 妈妈 and 嬷嬷..

Cepheus learnt to call 妈妈 first and finally after some serious hard work he finally call 嬷嬷, obviously overjoyed.. and out of overjoyed suddenly came the instruction to everyone that Cepheus cannot call me 妈妈 and must call me Mommy (????!!!!) what the?? i cant comprehend whats the reason.. she said because Cepheus will be confused.. (HUH?? i already said that a year ago didnt i??? and why should i be the one to sacrifice ah when he is MY son??) but being a first time mom (so i guess i was abit gong gong also) and since Cepheus is already calling me 妈妈 and mommy, again i tolerated and witnessed how he was forced and brainwashed by her to stop calling me 妈妈.. out of respect..

Finally came the last straw, as Cepheus grew older and cheekier, he starts to call anyhow, nowadays, he starts to call my MIL mama,  嬷嬷, and even 妈妈!!! Dear and I tried to teach him the right thing by telling him off and teaching him to call properly.  However there is no cooperation from everyone, and someone just keeps responding to whatever that my son is calling! be it 嬷嬷, or 妈妈 or mama (hokkien for mommy).. i told everyone, if you want to teach please teach properly and please respect the language.. the more you respond, the more he wont heed and will continue to call out purposely, that's kids.. if you dont know how to teach dont anyhow teach.. and the response that i get?? WELL NEVERMIND DE LA, HE IS SO USED TO IT ALREADY LET HIM CALL LO!!!!  Please respect others first if u want respect in return, is this how it runs in the YOUR family or is this simply how you nurture your young??

Nowadays as he get cheekier and more talkative, Cepheus will sometimes call 'ah yin' 八婆 (in cantonese) instead of 'pak po' at home, and everytime he do that, i always did my best to teach him to pronounce 'pak po' correctly.  Since the response i get is NEVERMIND DE LA when he call wrongly, i will know what to do in the future, it doesnt matter in the family if he ever calls 八婆 instead i believe..

Tonight i am so pissed off that i told my son off when he is bound for bed.. if you want to sleep, go and sleep and do not play for an hour in the room before you sleep!  I dont want to hear him getting scolded by his granny the next morning, just because she always play with him for an hour during bedtime and in the end cause him to have not enough sleep at night and started to throw tantrums in the morning, in the first place, who was the one who played with him in the room when he is supposed to be sleeping huh??

我有这么象病猫吗？